I am a gay woman and my partner and I have recently aquired a strap on. We have no problem when I am receiving, as I have never experienced straight sex, but my partner cannot dissociate being penetrated with the strap on from memories of sex with men - a big turn off! She enjoys penetration very much so this in itself isn't the problem. Does anyone have any advice or ideas that may make the idea more attractive for her?
And does anyone have any ideas how to apply lube to the dildo without feeling like I'm giving a guy a hand job?!